Happy 1st birthday Evelyn!
My Birth Story Part 3 by Coach Kelly
I was so ready for pushing. The labor part sucked because I just had to let the pain happen to me. I could only try to control how my body responded to it. The pushing part was different. I was able to work with my body’s contractions to move things along. I had a squat bar on the bed so that it was like squatting, but on your back. There was a sheet tied around the middle for me to hold onto. So, every time I had a contraction I would grab the sheet, curl myself up around my belly (think toes to bar), and push against the bar to the count of 3. We’d do several like this, then rest. My midwife was so excited about my amazing pushing abilities that she thought Evelyn would be here in under 30 minutes! Yippee!
I just kept following my body and the midwife. When I’d feel a contraction, I’d curl up and count and push. Evelyn didn’t always like that so I’d turn over to my left side and rest for a bit. I did this for a long time and she still wasn’t here. What was happening? All sense of time was lost. I had been pushing for nearly 3 hours. They said Evelyn would be coming soon so for Chad to take a break, go get coffee and get back. I had previously said I didn’t want to see/feel her head and that Chad wasn’t allowed down there either. The midwife asked if he wanted to see Evelyn’s head and so he looked and I felt. It was crazy, feeling Evelyn’s hair! He said something to the effect of how small her head was and the midwife told him that was just the top part, not the whole thing!
We finally figured out what the hold up was. Evelyn’s little fist was curled up by her face, making her head that much larger to push through. Ladies, if you’re grimacing here, that’s right. You should be. As a result, I had to get quite a few stitches. Then, it happened so quickly, everyone got really excited, said it was just a few more pushes and then… Evelyn was here!!! 3:18 PM 7/26/16 She was covered in vernix, squishy and beautiful and perfect. I immediately got to hold her and we snuggled a bit. Then, Chad cut the umbilical cord and snuggled her too. We were a family of 3!
Was this how I envisioned my birth experience? No way. It was supposed to be in the birth center without interventions 2 weeks earlier. Would I change anything? Absolutely not. Do I still feel like a failure? That is ridiculous. My body helped create, nurture and grow a human being! We’re at almost a year later, and my body is still doing miraculous things, like producing food for my daughter. Every woman’s birth experience is to be cherished – whether it’s without medications, with all of them, a vaginal birth or a C-section or something in between, our bodies are all part of the miracle of birth and that is special and never anything to feel like a failure about. I learned so much about myself, my body, my mind and Chad during this process. At the end of it, we received the best 8lb 8oz present we could have ever dreamed of.